Goal Setting Kids

bardcrest asked:


Okay so you have your son or daughter clinging to the edge of the pool. You walk a bit of the ways into the pool and you tell them to swim to you. As soon as they let go of the pool edge, you start backing up making it harder and harder for your child to reach you. I have come to two conclusions:
1. You like giving your child a sensation that they are drowning while accomplishing nothing towards their goal.
2. You think that they won’t notice the fact that you are making it harder and harder to accomplish the goal you set for them.

So which is it? Or is there some factor that makes up for the emotional scarring you are doing to a young child?
I mean what is the difference between a parent doing that and a schoolyard bully grabbing someone’s glasses and holding them above the person’s head just out of reach? In both cases you are taunting the other person that they will always be so close to accomplish the goal but never quite make it.
No I am not dumb. As for the distance motivating a child to learn to swim, I will concede that there is some logic in that. About as much as choking someone motivates them to learn to fight better.
This is sort of like someone asking me how much a piece of candy is and everytime they give me the amount that I ask for, stating that the candy costs more.

I am not a parent but I have taught a child to swim without the aid of floatees. I stooded in one place and had her swim out to me. Each time I would do it I would get a little farther away. I did not try to convince her that she only needed to go a short distance when she would end up going a longer distance.

No I do not think anyone is going to let a child drown. But the child does not know that. All they know is that they are barely staying afloat in the water and try as they must their teacher or guardian never seems to get any closer.

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As for whether a parent would laugh at failure. Well yeah my mother found it rather amusing when I finally caught on and refused to swim towards her if she moved.

Jamie

Verypetitte&sweet46 asked:


The reason, I ask these question, is because a young woman coming back from the city I was visiting, was returning back to our hometown where she was to visit with family and friends, prior to her college graduation.

I found out the next day that she was killed on the same highway I was traveling. Her graduation would of been this weekend, and now she’ll never get the opportunity to enjoy the goals she set forth or her future. Why her and not me?

She was to young. I’ve experienced alot of wonderful things in my life (marriage, children and a career) her life was just beginning?

Gregory

t jefferson asked:


If one is selling new with tags clothing, is the pricing different from used clothing in excellent condition?

How does one price expensive items - track lighting that was $2K new or a lighting fixture that was $400 new?

Hardcover books always $2? No matter how expensive originally?

Children’s toys and games? Used but in excellent condition sheet sets for twin beds?

We need to raise as much money as possible, but don’t want to lose a single sale through overpricing.

I’d appreciate any tips for maximizing our return on our yard sale, which will be in our driveway as part of a neighborhood wide yard sale. Our goal is to raise money for our dog’s $500/mo drug habit. (Congestive heart failure and endocarditis)

Thanks for your time and ideas.
Just FYI, no insurance available for this; dogs have the preexisting clause in their insurance, too.

Thanks.

Patrick

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Ash asked:


Last week my boyfriend moved to Georgia to see his kids and work to get him his own place (we were living with my parents) He wants me to move up there but the problem is that i’m 16 and he is 21 and my mother isn’t going for it, i am not going to drop out or get pregnant i have set goals for myself and want to make my dreams come true. I don’t want to leave my mother and sister because it would hurt them but i’m in love ( we have been together 3 years) and don’t want to live the rest of my life wondering what it would have been is i would have moved in with him, you know? What should I do really…

Donte

Kayla <3 asked:


So we have to do this THINK BIG poster for school based on the message Dr. Ben Carson is trying to get across (my L.A teacher LOVES him). so this is what I have so far and the explaination.

T- technique. If you have goo technique in the dance-world, you can really succeed.
H- help. When someone needs your help, don’t ignore it. You can always help them with different suggestions coming from others.
I- inspiration. Always keep an inspiration in mind. Don’t get too hot-headed and think you don’t need it.
N- nutrition. Keep a balanced diet at all times. Being the skinniest isn’t always the best thing.
K- kid. Don’t try to grow up too quickly. Goof-off, bend the rules, just don’t do it too too often.

B- believe. Always try to do your best and believe you can do anything you set your mind to.
I- intellect. Keep school work as a top priority. Also try your hardest to be successful in school too.
G- goals. Set goals for yourself and live up to them.

IS THERE ANYTHING I NEED TO FIX?

Sherry

Belen asked:


I’m 33 yrs old I have 2 kids my weight is 170 lbs I’m 5′9 My goal is to get fit I’m not so much tiring to loose weight just tone and strength and of course learn to have better eating habit.I have never reached this goal I set it every year this year I’m determine to do so. I have done this for a month then I get board and their gos my goal. I will start on Feb 11th and I’m not going to let my self down this time.I want this so bad that I feel this is it either I do it now or feel like crap the rest of my life and I am so ready to feel good and stop feeling crappy…I suffer from Anxiety & my stomach so I feel if I get in the best shape and eat healthy I would not have to feel this way …….

Calvin