Goal Setting Kids

Serendipity asked:


I tend to think the majority of the people in our society are so preoccupied with doing whatever it takes to keep their minds off of the real issues of the world and human race.Too busy eating, drinking & working themselves to death to conciously say, there are issues in this world that will affect my children, grandchildren and the future of the human race and earth we live on if I don’t wake up and choose to change the way I live. Maybe they think that they are too small or insignificant to make a difference. Maybe the thought doesn’t even cross their minds b/c they are too selfishly wrapped up into their own existence. Maybe they have never looked at it in a broad perspective, seeing the whole human race as a dormant being of the universe, non-productive and virtually non existent on the grand scheme of things due our destructive nature-we are destroying the planet we live on, killing each other, fighting over things that really don’t matter in the end with no large scale plan in sight that will save us when all of our resources on earth are used. Why can’t people put their brainpower together to be productive and work on advancing us forward technologically so we can be productive and start initiating serious plans of seeking other places to inhabit (and hopefully not destroy!) We need a goal as a human race to work toward that can provoke us to make that change to excite us and entice us to want to live better and create a better future for our offspring and the rest of the human race. Is it that we just don’t see a better future? Is it that we have been reaching for these ultimate world goals that have set us up for disaster and failure? We’ve been trying to attain world peace yet it’s unattainable unless another goal has been met first or another goal has been presented to inspire people to strive for world peace? What would the ultimate universal goal of humans be if we were able to obtain world peace? Maybe humans need a direction as a whole to move toward. What can we do with the universe that would inspire people to want to change?

Rebecca

crystal asked:


It seems every year i make the same one, since having my kids. Lose weight. I do lose some, but not enough. This year I am setting a goal size to be by the end of the year. Also to mend some friendships.
I am a size 16, do you think a 10/12 is a good goal? I have already went from 20 to16 this year. What is your resolution? I

Terry

gavin asked:


I live in a black community and all the kids ignore
the nice park set up for them…A base ball park a golf
area and tons of space…But they set up there BB goals
on the street and block traffic…WHY! Is it a black thing?
They block traffic and get pissed when you try to pass
them…

Talan

Kathy Gates asked:


In order to succeed with long term goal setting, then you need to be aware of the most common mistakes and pitfalls that can ruin your best-laid plans. Check your goals, and see where you may have hit a roadblock.

1 Sticky Goals: It’s easy to get plugged into a goal, and even though it’s not working, you hang on to it out of sheer habit or willfulness. That sets you up for procrastination and frustration. Rethink the goal by concentrating on the big picture - the direction you want your life to go - instead of the specific way to get there. Maybe the goal to own your own business is about wanting to spend more time with your kids, instead of more money. Maybe the goal to write a bestseller is really about wanting recognition for your talents, not fame. Focus on the feelings that you are after instead of the one-and-only way to get it.

2. Floating Goals: These goals are floating around in your head, usually masquerading as a wish list. Writing down goals (and strategies and actions) takes them out of the *wishing* category and gives them roots to grow. It’s no longer just a pipe dream in your head. Now you can simply filter all decisions (big and small) through your goals — does it contribute to my goal, or detract from it? Example: You have a goal to write a best selling romance novel, with a strategy of writing one chapter each week for 36 weeks, and your action is to spend 1 hour per day towards each chapter. If you don’t schedule - AND PROTECT - that 1 hour each day, it’s more than likely that you’ll get to the end of each week wondering why you didn’t get more done.

3. Contradictory Goals: This is a common mistake in goal setting–two or more goals with opposing results. Marriage counselors see it a lot in people who want the benefits of being married without giving up the single lifestyle. Or maybe you have a goal to spend more time with your family, but you have a job you want to do well at that requires a lot of face-time. Contradictory goals will frustrate you to no end, because you’ve given yourself an impossible task. Evaluate your goals in light of their relationship to each other.

4. False Goals: These are goals that involve chasing money, approval of others, etc. If you want to become a doctor just to win the approval of someone in your life, that’s a false goal. Or if you want to become a doctor just because of the money you’ll earn, that too is a False Goal. You’ll find yourself constantly looking for external motivation to keep you moving forward. Or you’ll find that no matter what you say your goal is, you just can’t move forward on it. It may be that it’s not an expression of the authentic you. Find the courage to tell the truth about what you really want in your life.

5. Blind Goals: No matter how nicely laid out the goals, strategies, and actions are, if you don’t SEE them and review them, and let them become part of who and what you are and do, on a daily basis, you’ll lose track of them. The job, the errands, the latest TV show, worrying about money, worrying about kids, worrying about the economy will all crowd out your time, thoughts, and energy. They may remain in the back of your mind, but you won’t gear your life towards them. Instead, write them out, blow them up to poster size, put a sticky on the ‘fridge, frame them for your office - anything, and anywhere that you’ll see them regularly.

Check your goals for these pitfalls, make a few adjustments, and you’ll be back on the success road sooner than you think.



Bill

Suzie McDermott asked:


Goal setting for kids is all about making sure your kids have fun. When kids have fun they actively seek out the experience again and again. We have all heard it a thousand times before - “just one more time, please mommy/daddy!!” This is the catch phase of kids who are having fun.

When children are bored they tune off, fidget about and drift off into their own little fantasy world that is filled with adventure and fun. Follow the five steps mentioned below and your kids will be too wrapped up in achieving their real adventures to go into the world of fantasy.

1) Let them learn from their mistakes without criticism. Criticism deflates fun, while support understanding and encouragement help to support a fun learning environment. It is from our mistakes that our greatest learning comes from. By viewing our mistakes as something to learn from instead of something that requires punishment is one the biggest advantages we can give our kids in life.

It teaches them that mistakes are a very normal part of learning and achieving our goals. This in turn will help them to actively pursue their goals as they grow up without fearing mistakes. Instead they will have the confidence to overcome many of the obstacles that life will throw at them.

2) Always focus on the positive. When our kids make a mistake focus on what the mistake has taught them. Use it as a positive. When they become disheartened point out what they have done that is good. And remember acknowledging that something is hard is also focusing on the positive. It lets your kids know that it’s normal for almost everything to be hard and awkward at first.

3) Join in on their excitement and enthusiasm for the project. This is a sure fire way to heighten the experience for our kids and double the fun. If you are genuinely excited and happy to be joining them (but not taking over) in their quest they will feel empowered. And as a side effect you will feel a greater connection to your kids.

4) Remember the journey is just as important as the end result. Although it’s important to know the end result when goal setting for children it’s not the only important component. See the journey as a series of mini goals that are needed to achieve the end result.

Reward you children for achieving each mini goal with plenty of praise and encouragement for what they have achieved so far. After all goal setting for our children should be just as much about creating happy lasting memories for our kids and ourselves as it is about reaching the finish line.

5) Tackle your mentoring role as an adventure not as a chore. Take the attitude of the explorer and adventurer and you will begin to find ways to make the whole experience of goal setting fun and exciting for your kids. This attitude will also help you to see the whole experience from your kids’ point of view. You will be amazed at how big of a difference a small change in perception can make to your whole outlook. And your kids will thank you for it with plenty of excitement and determination to get the job done.



Gordon

ffantasizing asked:


I read this Yahoo answer
< Here is a description of the office bully.

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A workplace bully subjects the
target to unjustified criticism and trivial faultfinding.
In addition, he or she humiliates the target, especially in front of others, and ignores, overrules, isolates and excludes the target. If the bully is the target's superior, he or she may: set the target up for failure by setting unrealistic goals or deadlines, or denying necessary information and
resources; either overload the target with work or take all work away (sometimes replacing proper work with demeaning jobs); or increase responsibility while removing authority. Regardless of specific tactics, the
intimidation is driven by the bully's need to control others.
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I read this and realised “we have a problem”.

Samson

Koz Huseyin asked:


What is the heart of personal development? Have you started hearing about personal development, and it sounds interesting? Has it aroused your curiosity? Is personal development showing you more possibilities?

The heart of personal development is growth. There is a fundamental law in the universe that says either something is growing or if it is not, then it is dying. For many education ends when school finishes, either on the day at school or when they say you have either passed or failed. Then we go forward feeling really good, ok or like a big failure!

Where for so many people, and for so long, this used to be the norm, personal development is changing that. Education does not need to end when formal schooling ends. You don’t have to be doomed either with the corporate ladder or a laboring job.

Personal development is not about knowledge, though some people in personal development keep it as such. Personal development is about giving you the skills you need to meet a specific objective.

The first step on the journey through personal development begins with goal setting. Setting goals is so crucial as it helps you get clear on what you exactly want in life. This is important, as without knowing what you want, no personal development course can help you. You must know what you want, and utilize deeper understanding and more advanced courses of personal development to achieve what you want.

The journey of personal development is a long one with no end. As all people are different, yet the same - no personal development course can make a one size fits all type of course. Your journey is your journey, and though you may need to goal set at this time, another may need to tackle limiting beliefs. Likewise if you need to break limiting beliefs first, another may need to start on goal setting.

This makes goal setting an ever more important reason to learn how to set goals first. Without knowing how to set goals, then you can’t know what you need to get there. Without a goal setting strategy, and personal development, you may not be able to find that limiting belief, and ultimately pluck it out. Personal development courses, books, and seminars can help with all of this.

More wealth, more health, more success and happiness are some of the benefits of taking the personal development path. You can grow to become a better human being or at least the person you always wanted to be.

For some the courses, the books and seminars are not enough to meet there needs. Life coaches are people who help on a more personal level to find the answers you seek. Whereas a course or personal development book may not answer all your questions, the life coach in most cases can.

Whatever your needs, a life coach, a product, a personal development book or seminar exists that can truly change your life. When you can know what you want, and how to find that information, and carefully, and persistently apply it, you will achieve.

There exists a better world. A world that has the better version of you. The bridge to get there is personal development through personal growth. Personal development is getting bigger, and it benefits you with more products and coaches that may just help you cut the time to get there.



Clifford

Chris Lowrey asked:


For the majority of us, our New Year’s Resolution has now come and gone. Maybe our promises were too big for us, maybe they were not affordable, maybe we needed help from others and they just didn’t cooperate, whatever the reason, all hope is not lost.

Most of us talk to our children about their future. The majority of our conversations regarding their desired future require goal setting skills. How can our children set and achieve their goals when we aren’t setting the example? Instead of taking the risk that they will learn our bad habits, make a plan of action that involves practicing what we preach.

Pick a consistent day and time of the week for goal setting. For example, when the family is gathered together for dinner on Sunday, make a routine of discussing the goal for the next week. It can be as simple as scrubbing out the dog dishes, shaking and washing all of the rugs in the house, writing a distant relative a letter, etc. If the goal is complicated and lengthy, break the plan of action into smaller segments and discuss the accomplishments while planning the next stage.

Remember though, all goals do not need to be labor intensive. Some goals can be for pure pleasure. I remember when my children were very young; I wanted them to enjoy classic books. Several nights a week we put pillows on the floor, made popcorn and read together. These are valuable memories I still hold dear.

Whatever your goals are, short term, long term, work oriented, time sensitive or for enjoyment as a family, set the goal. Discuss the plan of action to accomplish the goal. The results will be more than worth the effort!



Lee

Reality * His Third Account asked:


So many parents SAY they do, but they don’t act like it. For example, they don’t make sure that their kids read during the summer, or work on their academic weaknesses.

So many parents won’t even discuss the prospect of college for their child. I think the goal of college has to be set in a child’s head starting at a young age.

Do you have educational goals, and do you set aside time when school is not in session for educational activities for your child?

David

~Jester~ asked:


How do I motivate myself to do homework? I always tell myself that today is the day I’m going to go home and get things done. However, I usually go home and watch TV, and then I fall asleep. I try to push myself sometimes by not watching TV, going to sleep, or turning on the computer. I end up just sitting in front of the book and staring at it like it is a zombie. Thirty minutes passes and I check the the time, then I look at the book for another thirty minutes. I usually then decide that I need to take a shower to help me wake up. After I’m done with my shower, I realize that I should take the dog out in the backyard so he can alleviate himself. I go back to my room, and I usually realize that it is time to go to bed. I say, “Tomorrow, I’ll finish it at school.” However, I usually end up sleeping at school. I even tried setting goals and doing a little homework at a time, but it isn’t working. I was always a lazy kid, I didn’t learn how to do homework until I was in high school.
Still, I was lazy. I did my homework probably about twenty five percent of the time, I never took notes, and I would daydream. I would then go home and play games or go to sleep. In middle school, I would just scribble crap all over my papers to make myself feel like I finished my homework. One of my teachers thought I had a learning disability and told my dad that she was going to make an appointment with a psychologist. The psychologist gave me a test and she said my IQ was above average, and that I have extraordinary memory. When I first started college, I was really motivated. I would go home and do my homework before anything else. I just started getting really, really again. Maybe, I started getting conceited when I got a 4.0 last semester. Iono. I have a Physics final on Wednesday that I didn’t study for, and my grade depends on that test. I’m starting Winter Break on the 21st. Will a fresh start help me get motivated? I’m the only one in my family who is this lazy.
I don’t think I even did 1 assignment this entire semester, except for my except for my English essays. Moreover, these essays are also done at the last minute. I don’t know why, but it seems like I get motivated under stress or when my assignments are due the very next day. My grades aren’t horrible, but I know I can so better. Is there anyway to get me out of this curse? Help?

Niko