Goal Setting Kids

~Jester~ asked:


How do I motivate myself to do homework? I always tell myself that today is the day I’m going to go home and get things done. However, I usually go home and watch TV, and then I fall asleep. I try to push myself sometimes by not watching TV, going to sleep, or turning on the computer. I end up just sitting in front of the book and staring at it like it is a zombie. Thirty minutes passes and I check the the time, then I look at the book for another thirty minutes. I usually then decide that I need to take a shower to help me wake up. After I’m done with my shower, I realize that I should take the dog out in the backyard so he can alleviate himself. I go back to my room, and I usually realize that it is time to go to bed. I say, “Tomorrow, I’ll finish it at school.” However, I usually end up sleeping at school. I even tried setting goals and doing a little homework at a time, but it isn’t working. I was always a lazy kid, I didn’t learn how to do homework until I was in high school.
Still, I was lazy. I did my homework probably about twenty five percent of the time, I never took notes, and I would daydream. I would then go home and play games or go to sleep. In middle school, I would just scribble crap all over my papers to make myself feel like I finished my homework. One of my teachers thought I had a learning disability and told my dad that she was going to make an appointment with a psychologist. The psychologist gave me a test and she said my IQ was above average, and that I have extraordinary memory. When I first started college, I was really motivated. I would go home and do my homework before anything else. I just started getting really, really again. Maybe, I started getting conceited when I got a 4.0 last semester. Iono. I have a Physics final on Wednesday that I didn’t study for, and my grade depends on that test. I’m starting Winter Break on the 21st. Will a fresh start help me get motivated? I’m the only one in my family who is this lazy.
I don’t think I even did 1 assignment this entire semester, except for my except for my English essays. Moreover, these essays are also done at the last minute. I don’t know why, but it seems like I get motivated under stress or when my assignments are due the very next day. My grades aren’t horrible, but I know I can so better. Is there anyway to get me out of this curse? Help?

Niko

Megan asked:


I have goals set for my life. My parents are very, very strict religious. I am a Christian and I believe the Bible, but I do not consider myself religious. Having said that, though I do want to be in the Will of God.

As a kid I was told I was ADD. I know my parents disagree with my goals in life. People tell me I am extrememly intelligent. I am early twenties.
My problem. I fear committment. I have goals set, every time I try to fullfill them I feel guilty.

I am always restless. I have to stay busy, very busy, either studying or doing something physical or I end up very bored.

Since a young kid, I have been extremely restless. Like I am constantly searching for something, with not really knowing what.m

I have a rough background. My dad kicked my mom out when I was 2. I forgot who she was until age 6. Grandfather would lock me in basement and in my room for most of the day, when I was under age 6. My grandfather was physically, mentally, and sexually abusive.
My biological dad was sexually abusive.
He used to get mad at me. Tell me he was leaving, and constantly walk out on me when I was a kid. He would leave me in the house by myself, and not come back for an hour.

Then at age 7 my mom and her new husband got custody of me. Then we moved to another state.

My bio and his family would have nothing to do with me.

My mom was very religious. My step dad was not. I was such a needy kid, that I considered my step my biological dad. Because I wanted a dad so bad. He was horrible. He would play mental games with my head. Was cold. He was verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive. My parents argued constantly. I watched a LOT of violence in my own home. That at night I would re-dream it.

Now, I am an adult. Trying to get my life together. It is hard. Because I have so many goals, but I do not want to get out of the will of God, and I know my parents disagree with those goals.

Do you think I struggle so much because of my past
One other thing, my step dad used to get mad at me. Tell me he was leaving then walk out on me, and not come back for days. He would tell me it was my fault, and that it was my fault that he and my mom could not get a long.

I am VERY different than other people. People that meet me say how obvious this is.

I am mentally wired different, even though I am highly intelligent. I **** the same old same old. The medioc of society.

My mom wonders if part of my problem is because right after I was born the doctors put me on phenabarbitol. It turned me purple and I almost died. They put me on it due to a misdiagonsis.

As a baby, my mom says I hated to be held and would push away. Many times I would just stare off. I did that a lot as kid, just stared off.
My mom wonders if this somehow affected my mind.

Do you think so? It is dead obvious that I think different and am different than most people. To the point it bothers me.
It is like I think so fast, that my mind is racing. Sometimes it is so bad, that I stutter in my speech. Do you think it is because of the medicine they gave me as a kid?

I struggle with commitment, being content in living in one place. It is like this, I watch people, they go to school, then go to college, get married, and live in the same place all their life and do the same thing. It is like everyone does this.
I am never content with the same old, same old.

Is this from being ADD, or something else?

Elizabeth

Mr. BIG asked:


I am 26 now and I am a fairly normal person on the outside but my problems just keep getting worse I have anxiety you couldnt believe in your worst nightmare.And I havent worked in over a year and almost started pushing a shoppig cart.I got insurance finally and have an appointment with the doc but it is almost 2 months away. I guess my question is are there others and have you ever recovered?Live a normal life?happy?have friends?or should I just count on being a freak forever and not set my unachievable goals so high?
Not looking for sympathy maybe just someone elses story.

Tom