who do you think is ultimately responsible for the college, parents or student?
Husband and I have 4 children between us..2 are his, 2 are mine from previous marriage. One is in college and the other 3 will be in next 5 years or so. Our feelings are torn as far as what role we play once the kids graduate high school and attend college. We constantly discuss/disagree on the subject. We tried with the first one to foot the bill for everything, but quickly found that didnt work, low grades, partying, etc. My husband says, If a kid has everything given to them without working for any of it, thats what happens. So now she has no choice but to take out loans, work and we help out with extra expenses like books and food.
We also realize that we cant afford to pay for everything for all of them so we are trying to come up with a plan b/c we all want our children to become successful and now days a college education is required to make it in this world. But what makes some children go the extra mile to achieve success and others do the minimum???
My daughter is a sophmore with a 4.2 gpa. She is extremely smart but seems to lack motivation. I stay on her constantly about setting goals, encouraging her to do what it takes to get a scholorship but I feel like its draining me and all she wants to do is - enough to get by..she has no real motivation to do much of anything but waste her life away on the computer.
I just dont know what to do. I want them to want it. I want them to want to be successful. I want them to want more out of life. I want to help them but my husband says he is not going to give everything he has worked for, for them to not take it seriously. He thinks if its important to them, they will do whatever it takes to make it.
Opinions please?
Arlene
