Goal Setting Kids

mintypeppermint7 asked:


Why are people living life for their future… They don’t look at what is in front of them.

Society tells us that in order to be happy, we have get straight A’s, go to college, get a career, start a family, buy a house, have children, save for retirement….

Society does not tells us what happens when your goals fail…Why is that? Well, because “Life” happens. Life is UNPREDICTABLE. Something happens (unexpectantly) in your life that throws you off course. Correct me if I’m wrong. Who has ever lived life by following a To do list? Literally, followed and planned out a “blueprint” of their life as if the are 100% certain they will HAVE that life? If i’m wrong, tell me YOUR experience…not IDEAS…IDEAS are exactly like Opinions. They are all different. They are not FACTS….I want FACTS and proofs in your life or someone elses. if you agree then you know that living in the NOW (The Present, exact action and moment) is more important and moving than imagining and invisioning.
If you agree, then you know well that Living life (not for the future) but for today, is more moving and realistic than living for the future.

In other words, why do you wake up in the morning?
-Is it because you have to?
- Is it because you are searching for something?
-Is it because you can get to the day you are older?

This is the problem we are facing today…Especially for my generation…for teeanagers like me. Society tells us that the future means passing the SAT/ACT. (Not that it is not important…it is very). Happiness is spending money and possessing material and temporary things.

What happens to us when we don’t meet our goals? Who do we blame? Ourselves?

I think goals are pointless and if you live today fully, and with intensity your life does not need requirements and your living to live; not to exist.

The way Society tells us ho to live is “To EXIST”.
Why am I asking this? I was struck with what I learned this weekend in a Retreat. I want to know if people do believe that setting goals is a flaw and cannot be done according to what you have planned.

I get good grades in school and I love living in the NOW. My friends are in awe of how I live life…with intensity.

I know I may not be perfect and I know I have sinned a lot. But I know and learned that setting goals in life is like fantasizing the perfect future…perfect world…Which is unlikely to happen
Response to JOE T:

I see your point. But the thing is, when you set goals, you misss out in the reason of life.

How can I prove that?
- A scientist is awarded a Nobel Proze in Science for studying and publishing a 1500 page book about flies. Yes…a simple organism. His “Goal” is his life’s work….which is to study a fly. He did that for 6 years.

Now…that is one point of view…
The second.

He has a family… Don’t you think that his life’s work intervened with his family life? He miised out on 6 years of his son’s life. 6 years of love with his wife. 6 years on living life.

Goals are flaws because they distract us from what is in FRONT of us. If people say live life fully to be happy, then is he happy? Did he live life fully? Did he affect anyone around him? Which is more important, his work or family? His goal or family? His goal or life?

Why if something happened to him while doing his life’s work? Why if he dies? Did he not live fully enough?
Response to Jolly,

Aren’t you a sinner too? isn’t everyone a sinner? tell me…have you not sinned?

I have….I probably will in the future. But I still love God. I go to confession. Does that make me perfect? No it doesn’t…

Jesus came to Earth for the SICK and the POOR in spirit. Not for the good people….Why else would He have died?

Waylon

hp_resource asked:


I’ve been on Y!Answers for a long time, so I know there are 1001 questions about “How do I become a writer!?” but that’s not the kind of general question I’m asking.

I’m looking for a specific answer about where I should start, or what kind of goal I should set for myself. Writing has been strictly a hobby for me - a few short stories posted online, a kid’s book for my niece, some snippets of a novel that seems like such an overwhelmingly huge project that I could never finish it…

My problem is, I feel unstructured, and I have a lifetime goal to publish a book. I feel like I haven’t taken enough classes to have a serious goal when it comes to my writing. I feel unqualified to write a novel, despite my desire to.

I know I’ll never finish unless I feel like I can be successful. Should I 1) focus time on writing and setting goals and just finishing the novel, despite my inexperience or 2) invest my time in structured classes and workshops, with my novel as “side project” with “writing” in general as my goal?

Thanks in advance for your help and advice!

Adan

Abhishek Agarwal asked:


In today’s world, there are a lot of pressures that students have to face. Some pressures come from parents while some come from peers. However, on further analysis, it is easy to conclude that the students themselves are responsible for most of their pressures. These kind of internal pressures work well for certain students, while it has a negative effect on others. A student’s behavior and approach towards goal setting can help determine how the student handles these different pressures.

One cannot generalize a student’s behavioral approach towards goal setting. This is due to the varying personalities of each student. For the same reason, children get different grades. A general view on student behavior in setting goals can be arrived at depending on the type of students being observed. However, one should never forget that no student could fall into any one type of classification. A lot of students today do not like stereotyping and hence try to avoid being classified.

1) The Achiever- Here the student’s approach towards goal setting is rather extreme. This is due to the fact that the student does not consider the option of failure and such an event should not occur in his or her existence. Very often the student sets goals that seem next to impossible to others. Most of the time these goals are achieved. At other times, the student almost achieves it, but for such a student ‘almost’ is never enough.

There are many advantages as well as disadvantages of having such an attitude. Although it pushes to student to improve performance each time, when met with failure, the student might not be able to take it. Failure can lead to problems of low self-esteem in the student.

2) The slacker- There are a few students who consider life as one big holiday. Such students have a slightly vague approach towards goal setting, making it seem as if, perhaps, they do not have any goals to set at all. However, everybody has some goal that they set. Even a slacker will have something in mind as he or she goes about his or her daily activities.

One observable fact about such students is that they set goals that are more short term than long term. This implies that the student is living life one day at a time. Certain students find this kind of approach more productive as it lets them focus on what is at hand and they look move towards and achieve immediate goals.

Usually such students do not focus their attention on academics and their goals are usually not in relation to academics. A lot of people cannot understand the kind of goals that such students set. It is, however, wrong to come to any hasty judgment about them, as many of these students have turned out to be some of the most successful people the world has seen.

3) The Average- The above two classifications were the two extremes of student approach towards goal setting. Between these two extremes is the middle ground. Today, majority of the students fall under this category called the ‘average.’

These kinds of students focus their goals more on graduation than achievement. Such students find school an establishment that must be tolerated. Their goals are aimed at passing subjects rather than acing at them. Such an approach is ambiguous, as it neither leads to success nor to failure. There are, however, many people who do not find this appealing, as there is no apparent fun in it.



Marcia